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[sholanda]

MY CHILD IS PISSING ME OFF. EVERYDAY, SAME THING: I SPEND TWO AND A HALF HOURS TRYING TO GET HIM TO GO TO SLEEP. IT'S A BATTLE, AND I CAN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE!!!!

i don't know what to do. am i supposed to spend all day doing this? we could be doing so many other things, even things together. i KNOW he needs to sleep. we have all these routines we go through and none of them work except to get me all worked up. at what point do i give up??? he obviously isn't tired enough to go to sleep! and now the day is ruined. he is going to be a royal pain for the rest of the day until about 6, when he'll get real sweet all of a sudden before going down well for bed.

why do i have NO control????? it seemed like my parents had infinite control over me. this is such a hard age!
and now kevin is ditching me , too, so now i won't get the lofi girl site up before i leave for oklahoma.

GRRRRR

fuck

Comments

[onah.livejournal.com]

how old is he? forgive me for even trying to offer any advice. it's probably the last thing you want right now. It seems like kids go through a stage though when they're still really young when they just don't want to take a nap. I've been told that all you can do is just put them to bed (in the crib) and let them cry themselves to sleep. I absolutely trust the person who told me. again... please forgive me. I hate unsolicited advice, AND I'm a hypocrite! hoowee.

[sholanda.livejournal.com]

he's two and a half. he doesn't have a crib, and i can't lock his bedroom door. sometimes i try to hold the door closed and sometimes that works.

sigh...i dunno.

[onah.livejournal.com]

ouch. I'm sorry. that sounds really hard. I have no idea what it's like to be a parent. I can't stand not being able to help, it's in my nature, so it's hard for me to give up and realize I can't help.

do you really think your parents did have total control over you or do you just remember feeling like they had control? It sounds like you have control to me. it's too bad your kid seems to fight you for it. I'm willing to bet your kid sees you the same way you saw your mom/parents. what do you think?

I was in terror of my parents. they split up when I was about 6 and you get the idea that things are your fault at that age. so I was careful not to make anything else happen. my mom had a bit of a short fuse back then as well. she definitely believed in spanking. it's kind of funny. most of my interactions with my mom consisted of me listening to her telling me to do stuff. she directed life around her. as long as I at least appeared to be doing what she ordered then everything was cool.